Toddler Anger Management

Yes, you read that title right. If you have a three or four year old in your home, you probably are all too familiar with the clenched fists and whiney-scream that result from a frustrated toddler who is trying to express their emotions.

I have worked with another doula client when her little guy was experiencing some anger and frustration when his new brother came home, and we looked at a few different scenarios.

Yes, our attention is split when there are multiple kiddos in the house and yes...the baby always wins. For her, her eldest would act out agressively whenever she was nursing. For me, our oldest turns on the whine whenever we are feeding the baby. Jealousy? Of course, but look at how it manifests in your little one.

What worked for her little guy was a Caught You Being Good jar. He really took to this idea and his behaviour changed dramatically when he started getting caught for being good, had positive reinforcement, and his good behaviour became the focus as opposed to the less-than-great behaviour.

To make your own Caught You Being Good jar, there are loads of ideas on Pinterest.

For mine, he clenches his fists and starts swinging. It might be at me, it might be at himself. Strangely, it is never at his baby. (thankfully!)

Around here, we have a rule. If you're feeling angry, ask for a cuddle.

So what do we do? We ask..."Owen are you angry?" when he says that he is, we ask what he needs. With the angriest of voices, he says "a cuddle". He seems to need that physical touch, that little bit of pressure of mom or dad's arms wrapped around him so that he can take a big deep breath, and settle down.

Then we talk it out, and talk about a new learning angle. This is something that his teachers use at school, a new learning angle every week. So, sometimes we will say "this week, your learning angle is to cooperate" and we talk about what that word means.

Sort of like the word on the street on Sesame Street. He seems to really get it, and is able to settle down when we use a couple of key phrases.

How do you deal with an angry toddler? If you have any tips to share, please do!!


Summer to Fall #Fashion Transition #trends

Take one dress and one bag, then transition it from the warm summer months to the cooler, crisp autumn evenings...what do you get?

Summer to Fall Fashion 2014

Metallics and pastels have been really hot through Spring and Summer 2014, and there's no reason that they can't be appropriate for's all in how to do them, and what you pair them with.

For Fall, pair a pretty champagne dress with floral blocking with a dark denim jacket, suede booties and nude tights. Pretty easy, but definitely gorgeous. Instead of sparkly bangles and pretty rose gold pearl drop earrings, pull your hair up into a messy top knot or side bun, and let the textures of your clothing and the details on your booties do the talking.

Happy Fall!

Summer to Fall #Fashion Transition

Just because Fall is around the corner, that doesn't mean that you have to pack away your girly bohemian tank tops and accessories!

Summer to Fall Fashion 2014

I love this cobalt blue lace tank for both summer and fall. It's a great pop of color and is a really versatile piece as well!

For summer, pair it with dark washed bermuda shorts, a funky fedora, and tstrap sandals.

For fall, boyfriend jeans, a 3/4 sleeve blazer, nude pumps and a clutch in a bold color such as mustard, emerald or orange.

Both outfits are great for a night out with your girlfriends, dinner on a patio somewhere or a date night with your spouse!

What is one piece from your summer wardrobe that will follow you through the fall?

Preparing for Baby: Your Business #pregnancy #newborn #mompreneur

While I have definitely prepared my blog for the arrival of Little Bear (post to come next month!), it is definitely not as easy to prepare my business for his arrival.

As any mom knows, adding a babe into your world gets your days and nights mixed up, your ups and down reversed. It can definitely be an overwhelming thought to be running a business with a newborn (and in my case, a preschooler as well!) but I have faith in myself and my abilities that it can be done.

In the case of my business, authenticity, transparency, and communication are going to be key. I have been posting about my pregnancy little by little, to the point that my clients know when he is expected and when they can expect that I will be taking a little time off. If we are having a great day once he is here, I will post that! If we need a little space, I will post to that effect.

Will I put my studio on vacation notice? No. For an artist on Etsy, this is like shooting your promotion in the foot. If you put your shop on vacation, that means people can't find you, or your products.

Shipping of products will likely be once a week...and will involve a detour to Starbucks where I can sit, sketch, and take a few minutes of breathing room.

In terms of coaching, that is the area of my business that I am not sure of right now. I think I will likely take the four to six weeks off following his birth, but then get back into consultations and whatnot. Ideally, I like to give my clients my 100% undivided attention and we all know that with sleep deprivation and adjusting to life with a 4 year old and new baby will mean my attention is in a few places at once when it is brand new.

So...right now I am just going to play it by ear. Life will change, sure, but that doesn't mean that I have to close up shop for a certain period of time. My art studio is something that is just for me, a place where I can breathe and create pretty things. So long as my heart is happy, it will stay open even with a newborn in tow. (hello babywearing!!)