When I first started considering hiring a doula for our birth when I was pregnant with Graeme, one of the things that I was most concerned about was whether she would support my consideration to bottlefeed.
Breastfeeding after Owen's birth was a traumatic experience, to say the least. It filled me with massive anxiety, fear, guilt and disappointment. My body just wasn't working...and it took me about 6 weeks to realize that my mental health was more important than the liquid gold.
Fast forward about 3 years to when I was pregnant with Graeme and I was considering going down that road again. What if my body worked this time? It was healthier, I had had a great pregnancy...ate well, ran and worked out up to 8.5months. What if it worked?
But...what if it didn't? What if it led me down the slippery slope of postpartum depression and anxiety?
When I raised the question with our doula, she simply said that we needed to do what was best for us and that she would support us either way.
What a load of relief!
Choosing to bottlefeed shouldn't be something that you fear or dread. For whatever your motivation to bottlefeed, the choice is yours.
When clients ask us how we feel about bottlefeeding, we simply say that they are the ones feeding their baby and establishing a bond with them during those feeding times. Whatever they choose is perfectly fine, and we support them.
Bottlefeeding has created a lovely bond between my sons and I. Those snuggles in our feeding chair, a dimly lit room...I still have the selfies on my phone because they are moments that I will cherish forever.
Feel confident in your choices, and know that we support them.