As parents, we often feel guilty asking others for help, especially during the night with a little one. But today we are going to talk about why you should put aside your mom guilt and call in reinforcements!
Did you know that doulas can provide overnight support? It's true! We love nothing more than seeing you step into your role as a parent, confidently and well rested...ready to take on the demands of parenting! An overnight doula can be instrumental to your postpartum recovery!
Accept those offers!
We all have those people who offer to help us out day or night should we ever need anything. Take them up on this, mom!! Most support people who offer to help have been there before. They have experienced everything you have! So trust that they are there to help you and just let them.
If you have an overnight doula, don't be afraid to accept their help! That's what we are there for!
Ask for exactly what you need
As parents, we tend to downplay our need for sleep or uninterrupted time away from baby. It is crucial that we recognize exactly what we need a helper to do to get the most out of the help. Whether it’s to have an uninterrupted sleep, time away from the house, or feeding/changing diapers, be specific!
Leave us a list of duties that need to be taken care of, and don't be surprised if we do more than asked!
Prepare for those tough nights
Before a crisis hits, be prepared! Come up with a list of things that soothe your baby, where those things are located and people you can call to come over and help, including phone numbers. Creating a plan while you are in a calm and relaxed state, can help you include everything you will need/can do in a time of low sleep and patience.
Some things to consider are: Where are baby’s items kept? What is baby’s schedule for feeding/sleeping? How does baby sleep? Where? What will my support person need to know so that I can have some uninterrupted time to myself?
This is helpful not only for yourself on nights when you aren't in the care of your doula, but also helps your doula prepare so that you can rest easy, knowing that everything is taken care of!
Remember mommas, its ok to need a break and to ask for help sometimes. That’s what makes us be able to do this day in and day out.
P.S. You got this!!